Urban's Birth Story

Giving birth to my first son, Sayer, was one of the most amazing experiences of my life. I had a 14 hour labor, and most of that time I wasn't even in pain because I had a fantastic epidural. I truly enjoyed my son's birth. So, you could imagine my shock when less than two weeks after giving birth, a doctor was recommending I never have another vaginal birth. As it turns out, I had some complications during the birth that I was unaware of at the time. It wasn't until the epidural wore off that I knew anything was wrong. And while doctors can't force you to ever have a cesarean, they strongly recommended it.

I was hoping this was all a bad dream. I felt like I had this incredible birth and almost in the same moment, someone was trying to take that away from me and my future children. I cried for three days. And I cried sporadically for months after that every time I thought of having another baby.

When we got pregnant, I knew it was time to put my game face on. There was no sense pouting around over something I had no control over. This baby was going to be born a little differently than my first, and there's nothing wrong with that. That's why we have cesarians. They save lives. And in my case, this c-section was to ensure my life would be a bit more pleasant afterward- without further medical complications. 

But, I have to admit, the weeks preceding the birth were very weird. I knew I was about to have a baby, but everything was so planned.  It felt like a regular surgery, as opposed to giving birth to an actual child. So, much in fact, that if it weren't for my giant belly and hobbit-like feet, I probably would have forgot I was pregnant. I had the date highlighted on my calendar and every time I saw it I would think... "Wow, we're actually having a baby on that day".

And, we did. And it was perfect. Because regardless of how your baby comes out, you love him just the same.